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A child with autism, a mother of age and life in general can be enough to mke one pause. Throw a car wreck in that leaves you disabled but able to do somethings without enough to go back to work; leaves you in a real pickle.
The general explantion of situation will be the hands of time. on the clock piece. I want yout to get the analogy of this Clockmaster situation.
I will have to go back to my childhood. Growing up I thought my parents were not the best. We were not the poorest and not the richest. All of us kids had to work. Our house was a little less than nice until our parents had the money to do it. My mother had to work to make ends meet. This doesn't say I never lacked for love or didn't love my parents.
My best friend was in the same boat. Sometimes embarressed to have friends over for having holes in the carpet. Let me make this clear; we were maybe lower middle class that grew into upper middle class. Our parents busted their backs and _______ to make sure we (my older sister and two older brothers) had it much easier than they did. Thus, we all learned the value of money and how to work for what extra's we wanted and needed.
Even though my parents were not rich they managed to take us on a vacation every summer. This meant seeing the Grand Canyon, Yellowstone and much much more. We camped and made sandwiches instead of hotels and restaurants. Our parents, George Tanner and Dorothy Louise Mallo even made games out of things. They spent plenty of time of which most was quality time.
Here is where it gets better. When we grew into the upper wealth classes, our parents gave us more. They bought us our first car, abiet used but we didn't care. They even bought gas and paid for insurance during the year. They had us groomed for college. Heck we never knew we had a choice of not going.
Looking back they taught us how to be parents. Did they make mistakes? A few. People are not perfect. However, I doubt you could find two people that tried harder to do their best at raising children. One thing my father told me that raising us was one of the parts of his life. I understand this now that I have a child. He confessed it was hard along with on of the scariest times in his life too.
My bothers and sisters were older than me. In some respects I was a bit like an only child. This may sound odd but my Dad actually bought me a HOT HOT ROD. The car was a 70 Torino. It had a 302 engine with a Holly 4 barrel, a racing kam, spagetti side pipes, Kreger Mags and much more. My brother came back from being in the Navy for a visit and couldn't believe it.
I asked my Dad why he bought this for me. He replied that this would give me something to talk to the boys about. He said I would be less likely to end up in the back seat or get pregnant. I thought about it thinking how sneaking wise my Dad had been. He did pretty well for a man that lost his Dad at age ten and mother at seventeen.
Now talk about mom. Boy did she have a few tricks up her sleeves. She told us that we could keep whatever money we found during cleanup chores. She left money around, about what we should earn for an allowance, directing age appropriate tasks to where the money had been placed. She knew how well we had cleaned by how much money was or wasn't left.
Now for curfew and resrtiction violations. My sister told me that when we had grown up trying to sneak in mom had placed three litter coke bottles in our path to wake her up so she could check the time. Then in the morning she would confront us about what time we came in and see if we told the truth. Mom had a few other tricks up her sleeve.
I am backing up but have to tell you of a travel came passed to us from my Aunt Gladys on the Mallo side. We called it Zip Zip. Basically, you played to get all the horses you could. If you saw a horse you said Zip. If you saw a group...Zip Zip before others got the group. A white horse counted as two. If you zipped a cow, donkey, pig or other animal you all your horses. To get all the other teams horses when you came to a cementary you called Slopsky. My dad had an unfair advantage as he had travled more and knew where the cementaries were.
Needless to say, being the youngest, I did plenty of wrong Zip Ziping. Being picked last in your own family is unpleasant. Mom and Dad came to my rescue often. Thus, parents feel the pain of all their children and act accordingly to sooth over it. Yet, there were plenty of times my parents made me suffer the pain of growing up. Why? To prepare me for the what was to come as an adult.
A funny story about the Zip Zip came and a legend in our family. I kept asking "Is that a horse. Is that a horse?" My Dad and Mom couldn't believe their eyes. Dad pulled over and sure enough it was a Mountain Lion chained to the bumper of a station wagon. That was in the sixties, about 65 or 66. The owner worked construction. All of kids got to pet it. That wouldn't happen in today's society. However, I wasn't the cause of loosing horses to the other team that day.
Are you getting the feel for family time spent together? My mom was the glue that held us together. My dad was a Seargeant and the hard driving force behind making us do. Mom was the soft approach. Both are needed to balance out the other. God blessing's come in two parent's in a family. One gets relief when worn out on the job and the children get a breather from the hard driving parent. Blessings come from God knowing what we need at each time and stage of life.
Okay, I blended some of the early 1 and 2 O'clock periods of life in the hands of time together. Please forgive me while I am trying to tell you all about how this goes together.
3 and 4 O'clock come after highschool during college while getting my BS in Pharmacy. Growing up occured quite a lot during this time. I worked every weekend and kept grades up. Graduation came and after a year I bought my own house. Dad was pro mom was con. During college my friends that didn't go to college got married. I had proposals but not out of real love. Dad kept me grounded and mom provided emotional support.
These periods helped me define my needs, wants and desires. I have to admit I lacked in setting boundaries. Please if you have this issue get some help or read some books on this situation before burn out and explode.
5 and 6 post college. Graduation was long waited for but never did I as many realize that college would be looked back on as one of the best times in life. God guides you all of your life and prepares you for each step to come. Even when you stray you learn.
Started dating husband or future at that time. We dated nine years before we married. It is about this time that my relationship with my mom started to breakdown a little. Mom was so noisy about what when where and how I was doing it seemed she never gave me a breather. There is more but it is petty. She didn't know she was doing this. You see she was still learning how to be a mother to an adult child. Never the less taking some communication classes never hurt.
This goes back to boundaries. You don't owe people explantions. Proverbs 29:11 KJV
11 A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards.
This goes against tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. Thus, wisdom must be sought and learned. Reading the Bible and askng God for help is a great way. Here is where I owe my mom for exposing me to Christian teachings early in life.
7 O'clock. Marriage is an adjustment no matter what you think. Children even more. Then if you have a child with special needs, special abilities and is a blessing that teaches you many things. I thought I was prepared for a child. I was an older mom. We waited until we had been married over a year. We were money okay. Both of us were Christians. I don't want to go into all the challenges but just say it hit us hard in our marriage. Frustrations was at the base of the blame game. This took a hit on our marriage.
However, these things made us stronger. If you want to do yourself a favor, quit doubting your parenting so much. Mistakes will be made. As long as you try and earnestly want to do your best, ask God for help; I'm sure all is okay. Another big favor you can do is buy the book by Wanda Draper, "Your Child Is Smarter Than Think!" She reasures parents that they are fine and their children are not stupid. It helped me and I know God hooked me up with the information. Trust me I asked for her information at an appointment and I got her cell phone number. Wanda is an internationally known child developmental specialist. She writes on a level that all can understand but gives great common sense advise. Spectacular book.
I promise you I can't go into all the situations that rule out chance that God is acting in my life. He is the Clock Master of time in your life in mine. If you trust him he will guide you. He gave me the parents I needed and now I know he gave my son the two parents he needed and it is a blessing. My husband counters my harshness learned from being brought up military. I will not apoligize for being a pusher. My son wouldn't be this far along if I handn't pushed. However, Bill, my husband is a blessing of a counter weight to even out my rought edges.
8 O'clock. I panic about having my son prepared for life. He is an only child and being special needs; I don't want him lost after we his parents die. There is no real close relatives to be his guardian if needed. Therefore, I want him to be as functional as possible.
Well, my idea was to contact the historical socity and see if there was a fit for a volunteer position. I thought there would be less stress on social interaction on one side and then on giving tours more social interaction. Long story of how I thought it would fit but now know God directed. He will start out scanning and work up to digitization. Some have worked this into a job. They have worked with autistics before.
My son interviewd with one person, the head of volunteers, and then when the person came down man came down that my son would be working with or under; I overheard one tell the other my son "has appropriate conversation skills!" Made my day. I knew then that I need to refresh my relationship with God, The Clockmaster of time. God has a plan and reason for all that happens.
New King James Version (NKJV)
9 A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps.
The rest of time is still going on. I hope you see how parents, mom's and dad's impact you on mothering on Mother's Day. Hoping you have gleaned some insight from my post that I have learned in life.
One thing I do not want you to do is pity me for having an autistic or special needs child. He has heaped too many blessings on my life to regret having him. He teaches me to enjoy life and relax. Better yet he has helped me to understand myself and enjoy life.
Happy Mother's day. Don't forget step parents when step should not be in the word of parent. A mother is not just one that gives birth. A mother is one that takes a child through life and the teachings of all steps of life. I prefer to say in the Christian manner but understand if you disagree. I will uphold your right to believe as you want. But, never forget the impact your parents have in your life and be grateful for it.
The homely fellow calls out to a gorgeous girl passing him on the street, “The world’s going to end unless we have sex right now!” Astonished she turns quickly and replies, “Do we have time to get to a motel or must we do it right here?” scene from the movie “The Invention of Lying.”
Obama Puts Integrity and Honor
in the Ditch, Geithner** Says,
Bush Saved Car from Ruin
For those who fancy sound-bites and many people do:
ACORN and ACORN lawyer Barack Obama and progressive Dems deliberately pushed the car toward a 500-foot cliff. George W. Bush braked and steered the vehicle into a controlled skid and allowed it to coast safely into a friendly ditch instead.
For those who believe everything Barack Obama says, Rajjpuut dares you to read this blog . . . . the truth contained in the preceding paragraph relies upon a recent statement by Treasury Secretary Timothy Geithner and a short string of logical and statistical facts that anyone with a 5th grade education can understand. But first a bit of background . . . .
A love letter is not a recipe for turtle soup; a suicide note is not a travelogue; a court summons is not graffiti; a nursery rhyme is not a thesaurus; an encyclopedia entry is not a page in a joke book; etc., etc. To people who think clearly . . . it’s starkly obvious that different styles and distinct types of communication have different purposes altogether. And it’s dramatically evident that some people use “communication” for utterly different and more sinister purposes than honorable folks usually do. For a good example of a bad example, let’s think about Barack Obama.
If one piece of Barack Obama’s medium-length communication can be seen to be “successful” in his eyes, it is clearly the parable of the car in the ditch. He’s repeated that little story at least thirty times. He’s repeated it on all sorts of occasions for a wide variety of audiences. He’s taken to embellishing the story like an old time serial writer getting paid by the word by talking about the heat, having other Democrats help him push the car out of the ditch, even talking about mud and insects in the ditch. Barack Obama loves that story!
If one slogan has been utterly positively met by his audiences over and over and over again, it can be summarized this way: “It’s all George W. Bush’s fault.” He’s repeated that statement or some corollary of it perhaps 500-600 times. He’s repeated it on all sorts of occasions for a wide variety of audiences. In some speeches he’s used that slogan or a corollary four or five times. And he’s seen to it that his administration and his party use the slogan repeatedly. Often the “Blame it all on Bush” slogan and the car in the ditch story are clearly the only really certain applause, however muted, that’s awaited his speeches of late.
Just like the parables of Jesus, Obama’s two terse communications are powerful in part because they are so short. Obviously the car is a metaphor for the U.S. economy and the ditch is a metaphor for the economic collapse. What do these two sound bites have in common? They both sidestep all blame and accuse Obama’s predecessors; they’re both used to create an immediate gut response rather than a thoughtful response; and they are both designed more to obscure the truth than to reveal it . . . in a phrase they’re both examples of a propaganda technique called “the Big Lie.”
Adolf Hitler in chapter 10 of Mein Kampf coined the term “the Big Lie” to refer to two purported Big Lies that he claimed the Jews, Communists and other “November Criminals” (these were his three main scape-goats) had propagated at the end of World War I as they sold Germany out: A) that the German army had been defeated in the field and B) that General Ludendorff was mostly responsible for Germany’s defeat. Of course, Mein Kampf and most of Hitler’s communications were in themselves Big Lies including his creation of the November Criminals idea; repetition of the Zionist Conspiracy among the Jews fable; and fabrication of the notion of Aryan superiority in blood and cultural achievement.
Among the propaganda techniques Hitler discussed, the Big Lie, he said, was a “a lie so colossal that no one would believe that someone ‘could have the impudence to distort the truth so infamously’ ergo it must be true." He continues, “In the Big Lie there is always a certain force of credibility; because the broad masses of a nation are always more easily corrupted in the deeper strata of their emotional nature than consciously or voluntarily; and thus in the primitive simplicity of their minds they more readily fall victims to the Big Lie than the small lie, since they themselves often tell small lies in little matters but would be ashamed to resort to large-scale falsehoods. It would never come into their heads to fabricate colossal untruths, and they would not believe that others could have the impudence to distort the truth so infamously. Even though the facts which prove this to be so may be brought clearly to their minds, they will still doubt and waver and will continue to think that there may be some other explanation. For the grossly impudent lie always leaves traces behind it, even after it has been nailed down, a fact which is known to all expert liars in this world and to all who conspire together in the art of lying.”
Hitler also advised upon how to exploit the Big Lie which was later summed up by American OSS intelligence officials this way in the profile they created of Der Fuhrer: “His primary rules of conduct are never allow the public to cool off; never admit a fault or wrong; never concede that there may be some good in your enemy; never leave room for alternatives; never accept blame; concentrate on one enemy at a time and blame him for everything that goes wrong; people will believe a big lie sooner than a little one; and if you repeat it frequently enough virtually all people will sooner or later believe it.” Since Hitler also advised never admitting a lie was false, but just keep hammering away at it even if you look a bit ridiculous . . . we can predict that his spiritual godson Barack Obama, who seems to operate under the same megalomaniacal modus operandi will never stop blaming Bush and will never stop telling the car in the ditch story.
So for those of us who believe in clear thought and who can spot a “false prophet” miles away . . . . What exactly is wrong with Barack Obama’s “Blame it all on Bush” slogan and his “car in the ditch” parable? And why are Obama and ACORN deliberately pushing the car toward the cliff, in the more accurate sound bite given above?
Again, the Obama soundbites are designed to hide the truth and convince people of the validity of a Big Lie viscerally, in their gut, while bypassing their brains. They have the hyper-added benefit of being wonderful sound-bites themselves while at the same time hiding a truth so damning and yet virtually difficult to convey that ostensibly no sound bite can clear things up. It’s a lot like Mondale’s (“Where’s the beef?”) accusation of Gary Hart during the 1984 Democratic Presidential Primary Campaign which implied that Hart was little more than a pretty boy. So let us now show Barack Obama’s car in the ditch story up for the falsehood it is . . . .
ITEM: some statistics and some facts . . .
A) Richard Cloward and Frances Piven, two leftist Columbia U. professors (NYC) published their article, “The Weight of the Poor: a Strategy to End Poverty” in The Nation magazine in 1966. They opined that a welfare registration drive would put the entire nation in a crisis and the result of the crisis would be the Democratic party would institute (GNI) a guaranteed national income and presto that would be the elimination of poverty. The Cloward-Piven Strategy is based upon one of (self-avowed neo-Marxist community-organizer) Saul Alinsky’s “Rules for Radicals” (from his book, Rule #4 “Make the enemy live up to his own book of rules.”) Their idea is to manufacture a crisis to move the country to their socialistic ends. In 1967, they enlisted another radical community organizer George Wiley to create the (NWRO) National Welfare Rights Organization to test their theory by hook or by crook, he enlists over six million new welfare recipients. In eight years (1975) New York City is bankrupt and needs to be bailed out by the federal government. New York state barely escapes the city’s fate. Wiley, Cloward and Piven brag openly about their great deed hardly regretting that the GNI idea failed. Cloward and Piven suggest to Wiley and other radicals that housing and voter registration are the next two areas where C-P Strategy should be employed.
B) 1946- 1992 USA has 62-65% private home ownership, the envy of the world, the system was NOT broken and required NO fixing.
C) 99.76% of all US homes are bought with more than 3% down payment in 1975
D) To “fix” the broken home ownership problem, the Community Reinvestment Act of 1977 is passed by Jimmy Carter and progressive Democrats to force lending institutes to make bad loans they would otherwise not make. In Arkansas in ’77, ACORN is quickly created by George Wiley’s lieutenant Wade Rathke who will also later found the SEIU union. ACORN goes to work on both C-P recommended new territories: voter registration and housing. The organization also hooks up with Bill Clinton just elected Arkansas Attorney General in 1976, an up and coming politician who they will help and who will help them mightily. The group is mostly ineffective at first because CRA ’77 was so poorly crafted that smart lenders could avoid most of the forced lending to unqualifed people. But ACORN is patient.
E) By 1985, little has changed 99.5% of all home loans still are made with 3% or more down payment. Clinton was elected governor in 1978 at the age of 32. He’s defeated in ’80 but elected again four more times and serves a total of almost 12 years.
F) In 1992, George H.W. Bush who successfully vetoed 44 out of 45 bills he disliked fails to veto a big housing bill. Unfortunately, one of the small portions he hates about the bill expands CRA ’77 so that Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac (the two huge government agencies) are now made part of the CRA mortgage-guarantee progam. The plot only sickens from here on out.
G) Clinton with the support of ACORN whips Bush and becomes President. One of the first things he does is create the Motor Voter Act (called by conservatives “a license for voter fraud”). He signs the bill into law with Cloward and Piven standing directly behind him in the official photograph (available in several places on the internet). ACORN can finally go to town on voter registration. In 1995, Clinton passes two laws expanding CRA ’77 mortgage-guarantees. Even before that, at the end of 1994, a community organizer named Barack Obama begins working as an ACORN lawyer. He has taught Alinksy’s “Rules for Radicals” to Chicago students and is very good at browbeating and shaking-down unwilling lenders to make them comply with the expansions of CRA ’77. Obama will work for ACORN for parts of the next three years. By 1995, the situation has changed dramatically in housing now 14% of all home loans are made to borrowers who cannot afford a 3%^^ or more home down payment. That is, since CRA ’77 was created lenders are now making 55 times as many questionable loans as they were in 1975.
H) In 1998, Bill Clinton, Democrats and especially Progressive Democrats and Progressive (we need to “progess” beyond the limitations of the "outdated and flawed" U.S. Constitution) Republicans pass a final expansion of CRA ’77 which puts the whole arena of mortgage-guarantees on steroids. Clinton, the first ACORN president, has delivered for them in a huge way on voter registration and on housing. Barack Obama is gone, but now ACORN goes nuts (pun intended). With Clinton’s new bill they immediately start browbeating loans for those without ID; those without jobs; people claiming food stamps as income; other welfare recipients; people without rental histories; people with horrific credit ratings; and even illegal aliens. Worst of all, ACORN gets real aggressive and finds they have little more trouble getting an impoverished applicant qualified for a $400,000 home than for a $120,000 one.
I) In November, 2003, James Stack of investech.com revealed a graph he called the “Housing Industry Bubble” (housing prices had soared, yes, but stocks in the housing industry had risen an amazing 1300% in a relatively short time) and began talking about a coming “sub-prime lending crisis.” We had ample warning, you see. Bush and the Republicans saw the problem within a year themselves and sought to correct things with a bill in January, 2005 that would have undone most of the steroid-like ills brought about by the 1998 final version of mortgage-guarantee legislation. They were defeated. Meanwhile thanks to ACORN and Clinton's law 34% of all home loans are made to applicants who pay less than 3% as a down payment. Roughly 135 times as many questionable loans are being made in 2005 as were made in 1975.
J) Finally in July of 2007, enough Democrats agreed that a problem existed to pass a heavily-diluted law based upon Bush's January, 2005 efforts. It proved to be way too little, way too late, but it did enough good that Treasury Secretary Timothy Geithner recognized five days ago that Bush had saved our bacon. Without Bush’s administration passing that law, Geithner said, the recession would have been much, much deeper and housing prices would have dropped far, far lower. Americans that watch FOX News find this out three years after the fact, most Americans inundated by the mainstream media (MSM) will never find this out . . . . and in sum, the facts in a nutshell shaken together to make an accurate parable are that:
ACORN and ACORN lawyer Barack Obama and progressive Dems deliberately pushed the car toward a 500-foot cliff. George W. Bush braked and steered the vehicle into a controlled skid and allowed it to coast safely into a friendly ditch instead.
Ya’all live long, strong and ornery,
** Actually, the Treasury Secretary could have told a fuller story here: because Bush's original attempt to stop the bleeding and undo the damage in January, 2005 was rebuffed . . . . almost all of the CRA '77 legislation and its four expansions (including many horrific Clinton-Steroid version of '98 features) is still on the books like a timebomb waiting to explode the next time an ACORN-like entity wants to cause havoc. We need to return to the 1975 levels with perhaps 1/400 home loans made at 3% or less down payment. In other words we need to get out of the private sector's way. One other "tiny detail" should be mentioned to wrap up the last loose end. In 2003, Bush and the Republicans sought to change the oversight for Fannie Mae and Freddie Mac (contending that congressional oversight was far too lax) but that initiative was also defeated by the Congress and most particularly the progressive Democratic wing of the congress that was abetting the whole process all along. Thank you, Barney Frank.
^^ It bears saying that 3% loans were originally created for fiscally-responsible veterans who qualified under a special program created for them. Once CRA '77 is created; almost anyone can get ZERO-Percent downpayment loans.
Come down, come down from your ivory tower, Barak!
Contrary to all evidence from recent history, President Barak, “the Liar,” Obama still thinks that if he “ ‘says it’s so,’ PRESTO! It is definitely so.” Using an EPA directive, Mr. Obama, has decreed that by 2016 the fuel efficiency standards for all models of combined trucks and passenger car fleets of new cars in the country will be 35.5 miles per gallon . . . an efficiency increase of almost 10 miles per gallon. Just as Obama said he will create five million “green tech jobs” without any underlying technology” to back him up
. . . now the anointed wunderchild believes that his magic silver-tongue will overnight create almost 37% greater automobile efficiency. In the real world, Mr. President, cause and effect still rule the day!
Since you seem to have overlooked it, Barak, let Ol' Rajjpuut remind you, the EPA is not allowed carte blanche to invent demands out of blue sky or to establish rules based upon foreign say-so (such as the global warming myth now unravelling everywhere as we speak) but must make actual studies, scientific and repeatable studies on its own part, need we remind you, that verify the truth or definite possibility of what it's asking or demanding. So, Barak, where are those studies? When did the EPA invent the new technology to finally and irrevocably replace ICE (the internal combustion engine) on American soil? Show us something, Loudmouth, show us something! How about you spell out U-N-C-O-N-S-T-I-T-U-T-I-O-N-A-L for us yet again. Does your White House floor mat not say "Welcome" like everybody else's or does it start out "We the people, in order to create ". . . .?
Here's your "satisfy our idiot progressive base" party line: "These historic new standards set ambitious, but achievable, fuel economy requirements for the automotive industry that will also encourage new and emerging technologies," according to Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood. "We will be helping American motorists save money at the pump, while putting less pollution in the air." Such noble goals and such B.S. execution . . . get real, Mr. President! Other countries can fail to meet these ridiculous goals and live with it by selling their cars elsewhere. With your interference today, the U.S. automakers cannot survive unless they meet the goal established . . . did you just personally invent a prototype of a 40% more efficient engine process, Mr. President? If not, butt out, fool!
Ya’all live long, strong and ornery,
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