behavior - ACTION - Command Center2024-03-29T14:21:44Zhttps://patriotcommandcenter.org/profiles/blogs/feed/tag/behaviorHALF OF PART I TEN COMMANDMENTS FOR INTERACTING WITH KIDS ON THE AUTISM SPECTRUM AND RELATED COMMANDMENTS * (only sharing fist part - if want more go check out/buy book that’s right price!)https://patriotcommandcenter.org/profiles/blogs/half-of-part-i-ten-commandments-for-interacting-with-kids-on-the2013-10-03T06:31:36.000Z2013-10-03T06:31:36.000ZSandra L.Mallo Adcock D.Ph.M.S.Mhttps://patriotcommandcenter.org/members/SandraLMalloAdcockDPhMSM<div><p class="p1"><span class="s1"> </span><span class="s2">My disability does not impair my hearing and I am extremely bright. </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> Perhaps even brighter than you are.</span></p><p class="p2"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li3"><span class="s2">THOU SHALL NOT IGNORE ME TALK NEGATIVELY </span></li></ol><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> ABOUT ME, SPEAK UNNATURALLY SLOW, OR ASK </span></p><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> QUESTIONS TO OTHERS IN THE ROOM THAT </span></p><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> PERTAIN TO ME.</span></p><p class="p4"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li3"><span class="s2">THOU SHALL BELIEVE IN ME AND HELP ME </span></li></ol><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> BELIEVE IN MY SKILLS AND SELF WORTH. NOTE </span></p><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> THE GOOD IN ME AND DO NOT MERELY POINT </span></p><p class="p3"><span class="s2"> OUT MY NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS.</span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s1"> </span> <span class="s2">Believe in me and I will believe in myself.</span></p><p class="p2"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li3"><span class="s2">THOU SHALL NOT PERCEIVE ME AS DUMB.</span></li></ol><p class="p1"><span class="s3"> </span> <span class="s2">I am extremely intelligent. I do not learn in the same way as you, and </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> maybe not as quickly as you expect me to. Have patience with me. </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> Once I recall information, I never forget.</span></p><p class="p2"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li3"><span class="s2">THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE MY BEHAVIOR</span></li></ol><p class="p1"><span class="s1"> </span> <span class="s2">I can get overstimulated in certain environments. I maybe hypersensitive </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> to sound and loud noises may hurt my ears. Fluorescent lights are </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> distracting for me. Thea have a humming noise and can pulsate. All the </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> noises in a room can blur together. Please make accommodations to </span></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2"> help me.</span></p><p class="p5"></p><p class="p1"><span class="s2">******All of the above come from the book(pages 12 and 13) <b><i>Ten Commandments Of interacting with Kids On The Autism Spectrum And Related Commandments by Mari Nosal.</i></b></span></p><p class="p1"><span class="font-size-5"><b><i>I AM SAYING GO BUY THE BOOK IF YOU NEED HELP IN THIS ARENA. THE PRICE IS EXTREMELY REASONABLE FOR GOOD ADVICE I PAID MORE FOR VERY POOR ADVICE 17 YEARS AGO THAT WAS SO FAR OFF. I WAS TOLD TO PUT MY SON IN AN INSTITUTION. HE IS DOING GREAT NOW.</i></b></span></p><p class="p5"></p><p class="p6"><span class="s2">Now it is time to inventory my parental behavior after seventeen years.</span></p><p class="p7"></p><p class="p6"><span class="s2">Commandments</span></p><p class="p7"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li6"><span class="s2">Of course I have yelled. I am human. I try not and will try even harder. Like the Ten Commandments, it is hard for anyone to be perfect. The point I am taking away from this is if you are doing it all the time and never make an effort there needs to be huge changes. I try very hard and still have to watch very hard. It is not an easy task. I hope this book does for you what I wish I had known. Maybe then my learned behavior wouldn’t be like kicking smoking.</span></li><li class="li6"><span class="s2">Guilty. Still do this some. Yet, did a lot when he was a child. I think most parents do this out of concern and love instead of malice. Again, younger parents and teachers take the advice and wisdom.</span></li><li class="li6"><span class="s2">I always believed in my son. Careful though with all those extra therapies. My son Tanner asked, “Mom how stupid do you think I am?” He thought I pictured him as dumb and needed to fix him. I told him that I had problems when I was younger and I didn’t get help. I told him I was trying to give him something I didn’t get to help me with the stress and strain. Perceptions and Deceptions a slight tongue imbalance but oh how the emotions roll off so different!.</span></li></ol><p class="p5"><span class="s2"> </span></p><p class="p5"></p><ol class="ol1"><li class="li6"><span class="s2">See 3 tis the same to me.</span></li><li class="li6"><span class="s2">Guilty again. I defer a little here. I say these kids need to be held to a same high standard. One has to get to know these kids well while working with to figure out when they are playing you and not. I know I have seen my son play reading on 4th grade level and finally nailed him this summer on 11th grade using a MicroSoft 2010 Grade Reading Readability Calculator. He still tried to wiggle out but now I have him in a regular History Class. The school provided a one on one aide without me throwing a fit. The schools have always been great when it comes to my son. Maybe a couple of minor things but the schools rule for me. </span></li></ol><p class="p7"></p><p class="p8"><span class="s2">OVER ALL IT IS TIME TO BUY THIS BOOK...ESPECIALLY FOR YOUNGER MOMS. SHORT STORY TIME TOO.</span></p><p class="p7"></p><p class="p6"><span class="s2">My son used to scream loud and piercing in the car. I would pull over and check on him. One automatic act was to turn off the radio. When he got older and put two words together he said, “Music Off!” By Ollamok</span></p></div>Is this a stupid question?https://patriotcommandcenter.org/profiles/blogs/is-this-a-stupid-question2012-03-06T16:06:18.000Z2012-03-06T16:06:18.000Zcybercorrespondenthttps://patriotcommandcenter.org/members/cybercorrespondent<div><p>I posted the following question as a comment to someone’s post on facebook. Unfortunately facebook deleted it immediately and froze my computer. I had to manually shut it down and restart it. This is not the first time facebook has exhibited questionable behavior and I wonder why? My question was- Does any university provide contraceptive or even health care coverage to their students? Does anyone have an answer to this question. Did they delete it because it’s a stupid question? I can’t get an answer from anyone on facebook.</p></div>